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My Journey : From Body Image Struggle to Self-Love

Trading in Diets and Drinks for Real Nourishment: My Journey to Lasting Health, Joy, and Self-Acceptance.


Dani Ross wearing a jean dress sitting on a grey couch

Hi, I’m Dani! I’m here not only as a holistic nutritionist but as someone who has walked the difficult path of body image struggles, fad diets, and an often painful relationship with food. My journey has taken me from seeking happiness in all the wrong places to finding genuine contentment in a balanced, healthy lifestyle. I want to share my story because I know how hard it can be to find a way out of that cycle—and I want you to know it’s possible.



"It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes." – Sally Field

When I look back, it feels like my struggle with body image and self-confidence started early. Growing up, I was constantly aware of how I looked and, more importantly, how I thought I looked. I compared myself endlessly to others, always feeling like I was somehow less than, never measuring up. My happiness seemed to hinge on the number I saw on the scale or how I thought I looked in the mirror.


Dani Ross struggling with weight issues



Over time, I fell into a pattern of trying every new fad diet I could get my hands on. I chased after every “solution” that promised a quick fix, hoping each new approach would finally be the one that worked. Some diets helped me lose weight quickly, while others left me feeling deprived, anxious, and—if I’m honest—kind of miserable. My weight would yo-yo, and every gain or loss felt like it was tied directly to my worth. I was happiest when I was at my lowest weight, feeling like that was proof I’d finally “figured it out.” But it never lasted. I’d always end up right back where I started—or worse, feeling even more frustrated and defeated.



When the diets and fitness routines weren’t enough to make me feel whole, I turned to other ways to cope. For a while, I leaned on alcohol as a way to calm my anxieties and silence my self-doubt. It felt like a solution, a quick fix to the stress that never seemed to go away. But deep down, I knew it wasn’t the answer I needed. When I finally chose to quit drinking and take control of my health, I thought that would be the turning point—but my struggles only changed form.


When I eventually decided to make a change, I quit drinking and tried to take control of my health. But that “all or nothing” mindset had me swinging to the other extreme. I went from not caring at all about what I put into my body to obsessing over every calorie and macro, trying to make up for lost time. I worked out constantly, meticulously tracked every meal, and developed such strict rules around “good” and “bad” foods that I could hardly enjoy eating. My body probably looked the best it ever had, but inside, I was struggling. I’d spend hours obsessing over what I could eat and what was off-limits, and I’d binge on fast food in secret, ashamed to let others see me lose control.


Behind closed doors, I’d binge on fast food in my car, only to eat “perfectly healthy” foods when anyone was watching. It was exhausting, a constant seesaw of restriction and indulgence that left me feeling more miserable than ever. And the worst part was that the more I tried to control everything, the more my body fought back.


Dani Ross in a bikini sitting in the river with mountains in the background

Replacing alcohol with food and obsessive habits left me feeling just as miserable as before, and this time, it took a toll on my health. I constantly felt bloated, my weight was up and down, and I struggled with painful digestion issues that would have me going from one extreme to the other. On top of that, I was saying “yes” to everyone but myself, taking on more than I could handle, running on little sleep, and battling constant anxiety.


At one point, my physical symptoms reached a breaking point. I was so bloated that my stomach looked pregnant. Even drinking water felt painful. I ended up in the hospital, desperate for answers, only to be told that “nothing was wrong.” It was a huge blow to hear that my suffering was invisible to the medical system. I visited countless doctors, underwent every scan and test they could think of, and still, the answer was the same: “There’s nothing wrong.” No one seemed to be able to help.


I was feeling lost when I sought out a nutritionist for guidance. They gave me some relief, but it wasn’t until I immersed myself in holistic nutrition that things truly started to shift. For the first time, I began to see my body as a whole, connected system rather than a collection of symptoms to “fix.” I started focusing not just on my diet but on my lifestyle, habits, and even my soul. I needed to address every part of myself if I was ever going to find real, lasting balance.


The change didn’t happen overnight, but I slowly began to find balance and joy again. I learned to enjoy the foods I loved without guilt, to set boundaries and say “no” when I needed to, and to prioritize my well-being in ways that went beyond just food. I could finally sleep through the night, had energy to enjoy time with people I cared about, my digestion improved, bloating disappeared, and I felt a new sense of freedom in my own skin.


dani ross sitting at a picnic table enjoying a loaded hot dog and fries

This year, I’m celebrating two big milestones: turning 40 and reaching 7 years of being alcohol-free. My goal is to go into this new decade strong and confident. I’ve even started lifting weights, something I never thought I’d do. I joined a gym where I’m learning from others, proving to myself that asking for help is a strength, not a weakness.


Even now, though, I’m not completely free from those old patterns. There are still days when I find myself slipping back into thoughts of perfectionism or doubting myself. But I don’t get stuck there the way I used to. I’ve built up tools, resources, and a wonderful support network that I can reach out to when those old habits try to creep back in. Now, I recognize those moments for what they are and know how to come back to a place of balance.


"She remembered who she was and the game changed." – Lalah Delia

Growth is an ongoing journey, and every challenge reminds me of how important it is to keep going, to stay true to what really matters, and to live in a way that feels good inside and out. And it’s because of this journey that I’m so passionate about helping others find the same freedom—to live fully, without the burdens of old belief systems, and to create a life they love.


If you’ve been on the same path of yo-yo diets, obsession, and constant frustration, I want you to know that it doesn’t have to be this way. You deserve to feel at peace in your body, to eat without fear, and to live without restriction. I’m here to help you find that balance, to discover a new way of nourishing yourself that’s rooted in kindness, understanding, and joy.





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